5:00-5:15PM WINS SINCE WE LAST MET

HOW ARE YOU DOING WITH WHAT YOU COMMITTED TO MEASURING?

Zeena

FAMILY Establish traditions with daughter Esha. Could it be a bank or wall of photography that nests in your home in West Chester? Each year, you add to the collection.
BRICK AND MORTAR Establish exit strategy for Osteostrong one year from now. What do the financials look like?
- Two people I would like to introduce you to on this count. Let me know if you are interested
- Tricia Taitt <tricia@artofmoneymatters.com>
- Marty Wolff <marty@martywolffbusinesssolutions.com>
DAY JOB: Process Mastery in leadership role at Baker Tilly

Soniya

HEALTH Be intentional about self-care
LIFESTYLE Plan for living between 2 homes
FUTURE INVESTMENTS Family values evaluation before investing in a business/franchise.

In an email, I attached Shreya Mehta's FAMILY FORUM questions to determine values, mission statements, purpose

Divya
Health

Ensure changes are sustainable long term
water fasting 9/3-9/5 scheduled
prep for fasting
low to no carbs
low to no protein and other foods
no alcohol and sugar
blood work
fasting on long weekend

Spiritual

include practicing clarity of vision and thoughts in daily practice
more sensitive to signs around me
chakra opening

Work

continue working with Texas group to find off market deals.
go to Texas once a month
connect with Mike Battaglia once a week
continue improving delinquency in current business

5:15-6:40

INTRO TO SHADOW WORK

We are going a little deep today.

It's called Shadow Work.

It can be a little scary at times, but a worthy inquiry.

Each of us have a side of ourselves we show to the world (our 'mask'), and parts of ourselves we are keen for others not to see (these are the parts of ourself we 'suppress' or deny - our shadow)

Its scripts and rules that are running beneath the surface that are running you.

COMPONENTS OF YOUR SHADOW

Journal prompt: What is the worst thing that someone could say about the way you run your business?

ie. You're dishonest. You're unqualified. etc

I did this question and came up with "I'm unqualified" to run this business because I don't have formal training as a coach or a businesswoman.

Before I was aware of my shadow, my shadow was having a tremendous impact on how I was showing up when it came to selling. (It came as quite a shock when I saw it!) I was constantly overdelivering and undercharging on membership bc I was overcompensating for this.

What is the opposite of 'unqualified?' It's qualified, but if someone said to me, "Oh you're a coach" I would say 'no no no. I'm a facilitator. I'm a journalist.' So I never show up, in the full expression of, 'Coach' either.

So---once you have identified the 'worst thing' someone could say about the way you run your business, let's ask:

How does that impact you?
Are you (Fill in the adjective) now?
Are you (fill in the adjective) sometimes?
Are you (fill in the adjective) under certain circumstances?
How are you overcompensating if at all for the above?
Are you showing up in the full expression of the opposite then?
Do you have a memory of a time as a kid when you were (fill in the adjective)
Can you see the gifts in that moment? How was it happening 'for you?' Versus 'to you'
Our goal is to never be 'triggered' by that label again. How can we come to terms with it?
What do you need to become 'whole?' For me, it was making time to read about my industry, interview experts on business, and enter into Masterminds hosted by other coaches to become 'qualified'

HOMEWORK: Who are you as a leader?

Each of the following questions were designed to help you become more self-aware as a leader. The simple act of writing down your true, unfiltered thoughts and reactions to these questions means you’ve achieved that goal. But what you do next with all of this information depends on your personal goal.

Some are happy to leave shadow work in their journal and use it as a trusty tool to rediscover themselves after periods of confusion or overwhelm.

Others like to dig deeper and implement changes (both big and small) into their lives as a result of what they discovered during their journaling sessions. Either approach is valid.

The key to making changes as as a leader is a result of shadow work lies in your ability to analyze your answer to figure out the core theme or emotion lurking underneath. Answer a few of the following questions and come ready to share your answers.

I am easily influenced or swayed by the opinions and beliefs of others. I find it hard to assert my own voice and figure out what is them versus me’. Explore this statement.
‘I regularly downplay how I feel or what I’m really thinking for the sake of others’. Do you agree or disagree with this statement?
Why do you let people who don’t acknowledge your feelings stay in your life? Do you have a desire to keep their company? Or, do you know that there’s something you could be doing too to make the relationship better?
Do I value myself and what I bring to the table?
Have you ever done something just to make someone else feel proud of you? If so, who was it and why?
Do you fully celebrate your achievements? Or, is there a disconnect between your achievements and who you are as a person? Which one resonates more?
Do you feel you’re only as ‘good as your last achievement’? If yes, why? If no, why not?
What do you think are your most undesirable traits and characteristics? (This is NOT an opportunity to put yourself down but rather a chance to unearth what you believe to be true about yourself. This doesn’t mean what you write is an accurate reflection of yourself).
What image do you think other people carry about you?
How would you like others to describe you? Is there a difference between your answer to this question and the previous one? How does that make you feel?
‘If I could be anything in the world, I would be …..’ fill in the blank.
Why aren’t you already doing the thing you mentioned in the above question? What’s stopping you?
What is my definition of perfection? Is it attainable?
Do I hold myself to a higher standard than others? If so, why?
In what areas of my life do I feel inferior to others?
What narrative or stories do I tell myself surrounding ‘wanting more’?
Are you authentically yourself around others? Do you wear a persona or even separate masks depending on who you are around?

OCTOBER 20TH MEET

Theme: Shadow Work and Thought Leadership

Duration: 2 hours 5:00-7:00PM

Who is attending and food picks : Divya Tandon (fall harvest), Zeena Gupta (TBD), Melanie Curtis (Kale Ceasar), Joya (Kale Caesar)

Digg Inn Menu here

Location: Saksworks at Convene, 250 Vesey St Suite 201, Brookfield Place